The Positive Separation Method
During my own divorce, I could not find a practical handbook to give me a structured and positive path through the chaos of separation. In my own family, we had embraced the art of positive separation for three generations, but I couldn’t find a source to explain to me, simply and clearly, how to solve the personal crises that come up during a separation, or how to function effectively on a day-to-day basis while at the same time building a foundation for a new, happy future.
It became clear to me that every person in separation was required to reinvent the wheel for him- or herself. This triggered me enormously, especially considering the damage to individuals from economic, relational, and health perspectives both during and after separation. I wasn’t the only one, I realized, who needed a plan of action.
And so, the Positive Separation Method™ was born.
The Positive Separation Method consists of five distinct steps:
Step 1: Disconnect from your old life, and create a vision for your new life
Step 2: Focus on what you can control
Step 3: Reconnect to and empower your core
Step 4: Take loving action to care for yourself and become happy again
Step 5: Move forward with confidence!
Each of these steps includes intentional, concrete actions that will help you to: minimize daily chaos; keep your energy elevated so you can get through daily tasks; work with difficult emotions; connect to your vision for a new, happy life; meet your immediate and long-term goals; and stay empowered through what may be one of the most challenging times of your life.
What makes the Positive Separation Method different?
Focuses first on day-to-day functioning
Simple, clear, and easy to implement
A clear starting point that can be applied immediately, regardless of the stage of separation the user is in
Age, gender, financial situation, and educational background are not relevant
Expresses a basic faith in the positive qualities, resourcefulness, and adaptability of the user
The focus in on the intention and energy of the user, so both partners do not need to participate
Focuses on both the emotional and practical aspects of the separation
Uses familiar tools and exercises (such as talking with friends, taking time to relax, and weekly scheduling) to create a solid foundation for healing and growth
Applies tangible benchmarks for progress
A no-nonsense attitude & European flair
Complements and elevate other breakup, separation, and divorce methods
Benefits will be noticed immediately after implementation
Includes tools for separations where there are children involved (with a focus on the balance and well-being of parents)
Can be used by both individuals and professionals (i.e., coaches, therapists, lawyers, etc.)